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This is the season of goodbyes as the kids leave home Children are back in classrooms, and young adults have headed off to their next adventure, whether college, the military or work. It’s the goodbye season as kids leave home and time for parents to greet the emptier nest. For some that’s harder than for others. Some parents welcome the quieter house. Once the kids have closed the front door, parents don’t need to worry about whether their teens get home safe and before curfew. Its the goodbye season We don’t need to know our kids’ every move. There is more freedom to pay attention to our own needs and desires. Sounds good, but, when my oldest went off to college, I floundered like a fish trying to get back into the water after being caught and dropped on a boat. I wanted to jump back into the familiar sea. It took me a long time to accept and embrace the freedom that came with the silent nest, and embark on adventures of my own. First, however, I fell apart Saying goodbye to my oldest was the hardest Saying goodbye to my oldest was the hardest, despite having another daughter still at home. But I knew, as I watched Maggie say goodbye to our three dogs before she got into the station wagon loaded with clothes, bedding, and field hockey equipment, that our family was forever changed. We would never be the foursome who ate waffles on the weekend, went to soccer games, and church. Dinners at the kitchen counter were smaller and quieter. I did know she would be back – but only for visits. She would be moving forward, as I wanted her to, but I was stuck in the past, missing and crying for what had been. With her gone, so too was the music I heard every morning as she got ready for school. I missed her mess. Who knew I would long for that? When I came home from teaching, there were no boots or sneakers in the front hall, no backpack in the living room, or a trail of belongings leading to her bedroom. I closed her door. I couldn’t look at the vacant room where posters still hung advertising the movie Ladder 49, another one of a polar bear, a photograph from the Patriots’ snow ball game, and another poster of Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom from Pirates of the Caribbean. Papers, pens, and pencils and jars of coins cluttered her desk as though she had just left for the day. Looking into the room was like viewing a bedroom of a historic home. It gave the visitor a sense of who had lived there and when. After Maggie was gone, I filled my time with whatever I could think of so I didn’t think about her or our family. I added on to carpool, I did physical therapy, and dog training. What I wish I had done is identify those aspects of me I could grow – like my quilting and writing. I wish I had relied on my friends more. In a few years Ellie would leave as well. But the good news is that by then, I had learned a lot about myself and how to take care of myself. While I may have said “goodbye” to my daughters, that goodbye allowed me to say hello to me, to get to know who I am besides a mother. I now spend more time with my husband, our dogs, and me. I quilt more than ever. I work out almost daily. I write a lot. I see my friends. I still teach college students, but I’ve also started private zoom workshops. And, I published a book! I’m busy, but when I wake up in the morning, I think about what I’m going to do for the day. I don’t worry about getting my kids out the door, making sure they eat breakfast and have a lunch for later. I don’t worry about car pools and homework. You can't stop being a parent Despite them being “gone”, they are never truly gone. You can’t stop being a parent once your kids leave home. Children, regardless of age, are always going to want and need their parents, especially when they are sad, going through a rough patch, or lonely. Their problems are now more complicated than when they ran down the street and tripped on a tree root and fell. Love, kisses, and a band-aid, fixed that. The truth is I can’t fix their problems now, but I can support them, encourage them, and listen to them. Hopefully, they know how to take care of themselves. Now when we spend time together, it is mostly for holidays and vacations. We play cards and board games, go for walks, and listen to music. Welcoming them home is exciting, and always bittersweet when they leave. Goodbye doesn’t mean a relationship is over. It changes My relationships with my daughters have continued to evolve and grow. While I’ll probably always miss the time when they were little and I could actually fix some of their problems, I also love watching them grow, develop their own interests, take on jobs, marry, and when they do fall down, I watch them pick themselves up and move on. I’m not a fixer anymore. I’m more of a support beam, and now I have the time to focus on me which was a gift I didn’t expect. Morgan Baker is an is an award-winning writer, the Managing Editor of The Bucket and professor at Emerson College. Her work is featured in The New York Times Magazine, The Boston Globe Magazine, The Brevity Blog, Talking Writing, The Bark, Cognoscenti, and Hippocampus, among many regional and national publications. She lives with her husband and two dogs in Cambridge, where she also quilts and bakes. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more tips for empty nesters. Listen to the Two Women Chatting episodes on the empty nest and how to prepare yourself for when the kids leave home. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.

Claire Hattrick founder of The Executive Menopause Coach explains her unusual and debilitating symptom of the menopause. Menopause is a natural phase of a woman's life, typically occurring in her 40s or 50s. While most women are aware of common symptoms like hot flushes, mood swings, and night sweats, there are rare menopause symptoms that often go unnoticed or undiscussed. For me, the following symptom left me feeling like I was not only going in circles physically but emotionally too. As I entered my early 40s, I wasn’t prepared for menopause in any way, shape or form, or even have it on my radar. I had read about the dreaded hot flushes and night sweats but I really knew nothing else about it and we certainly weren’t taught anything about menopause at school all those years ago. Menopause joint pain Unbeknown to me, I suffered for many years with menopause joint pain. Leaving me unable to stand, sit and walk, without a doubt that was the worst physical menopause symptom for me and why do the menopause work I do today. The Rare Menopause Symptom What I also wasn't prepared for was the strange sensation of feeling like I was constantly spinning. Kylie Minogue eat your heart out! At first, it was subtle—a momentary feeling of dizziness when I stood up too quickly or turned my head too suddenly. I brushed it off as nothing serious, thinking it might be due to fatigue. But as the weeks went by, the dizziness became more frequent and intense. I started to feel like I was on a never-ending merry-go-round. They happened in the shower, walking downstairs, sometimes just raising my head! There was one occasion when I was shopping in Sainsbury’s and I started to feel a little dizzy, my instinct was to reach out and steady myself, instead I grabbed the arm and body of a rather nice-looking young man! I decided after this.. enough was enough, and it was time to consult my doctor! After a thorough examination and some tests, I was surprised to learn that my dizziness was, in fact, related to menopause. Of course, it was!! My doctor explained that hormonal fluctuations during menopause can affect the inner ear's balance mechanisms, leading to dizziness and vertigo-like symptoms. Once I had a diagnosis, my doctor and I discussed strategies for managing this rare menopause symptom. Here are some of the steps I took to regain my balance: 1. Hormone Therapy: In some cases, hormone replacement therapy (HRT) may help stabilize hormonal levels and alleviate dizziness. 2. Diet and Hydration: Maintaining a balanced diet and staying hydrated can minimize the severity of dizziness. 3. Exercise: Engaging in regular physical activity can improve circulation and reduce dizziness. 4. Stress Reduction: Stress can exacerbate menopause symptoms, so I incorporated relaxation techniques like yoga and meditation into my daily routine. 5. Medication: In severe cases, doctors may prescribe medication to manage dizziness and vertigo. Living with this strange menopause symptom has been a unique challenge, but it's also been a valuable lesson in embracing the changes that come with this life stage. Menopause is a time of transformation, and while some symptoms may take us by surprise, they are a reminder of the resilience of the human body. Menopause is a journey filled with both common and rare symptoms. My experience with dizziness and feeling like I was in a constant spin served as a reminder that menopause affects each woman differently. Sometimes making a few necessary lifestyle adjustments, can really help navigate the menopause with a bit more ease, especially when it’s one that has you in a spin...literally! Please check out our free menopause website at theexecutivemenopausecoach.com and my book ‘Menopause Help- before, during, after’ which was written for men/businesses as well as informing women at a young age. If you are struggling with your menopause journey please contact me at info@theexecutivemenopausecoach.com and book a Menopause Coaching session in with me today. Alternatively, if you are a business or organisation looking for ‘Menopause Support in the Workplace’, please do contact me here. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Please visit our Midlife Library resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. Also to learn more about the menopause why not listen to the two Two Women Chatting episodes on the Menopause and our chat with Dr Nighat Arif. Note: This post may contain some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.

Vaginal rejuvenation treatments are becoming increasingly popular- but what are they and do we need them? There are now more treatments available which promise vaginal tightening, enhanced orgasms and increased lubrication. And many celebrities have taken up the trend, with Kim and Kourtney Kardashian both having had tightening treatments after childbirth and Jada Pinkett Smith made headlines when she opened up about her vaginal rejuvenation treatment for “health” and “vitality.” But what are the benefits, what works and what can you do? Intimate health expert Dr Shirin Lakhani explains what treatments are available - and why it’s certainly not about achieving a ‘designer vagina’. Rejuvenation is not about ‘designer vaginas’ , says Dr Lakhani. “I work hard to stop people using the term ‘designer vagina’ as it is derogatory and misogynistic, and it takes away from the wide variety of reasons women may seek treatment. It is also technically incorrect as the correct term for the female genitalia is vulva. The vagina is the birth canal! “Women come to be for vaginal rejuvenation to increase to be able to live life to the fullest, rather than wanting to improve how they look. People are leaning more towards the overall long-term approach of optimal skin, physical and mental health solutions. For some people, vaginal rejuvenation is about improving their sex life, for others it’s about treating vaginal atrophy, where thinning, drying and inflammation of the vaginal walls may occur as your body produced less oestrogen and for others, it’s about feeling more comfortable in their own skin. What treatments are available? Empower RF EmpowerRF is a pioneering treatment, a veritable revolution that harnesses the potent synergy of advanced radio-frequency energy and intravaginal electrical muscle stimulation (EMS). ‘EmpowerRF stands as a groundbreaking leap in the realm of women's health, setting new standards in innovation and transformative solutions. This transformative technology from In Mode is a multifaceted platform, capable of addressing a host of women's health issues. It provides a fusion of cutting-edge solutions that range from neuromuscular re-education for strengthening weakened pelvic floor muscles to liberating relief from the struggles of urinary incontinence. But it doesn't stop there. This technology goes beyond, enhancing blood circulation and alleviating the discomfort of vaginal atrophy. The v-tone is for stimulating internal muscle stimulation, morpheus 8V combines radiofrequency and microneedling to stimulate collagen and elastin.The Aviva can be used to improve appearance and feel of the vulva, shrink the labia minora, tighten labia majora. It’s exciting as you can now do a non-surgical labiaplasty properly. The results should last for several years. It’s a really quick and efficient treatment for women looking for both aesthetic and functional vaginal enhancements,” says Dr Lakhani. Botox “You might think Botox is just for reducing wrinkles on the face - but it can actually be used for a whole host of medical reasons. Botox can be injected into the vagina under local anaesthesia to help with several conditions, including vaginismus, a medical condition that causes involuntary vaginal muscle spasm, vulvodynia, persistent pain in the vulva, and pelvic floor issues. Botox is most known for its use for cosmetic treatments but it is used to treat a variety of medical conditions. Vaginal and pelvic symptoms can be caused by muscle spasms and Botox works by relaxing the muscle,” says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. Filler ‘Hyaluronic acid, contained in filler and found naturally in the body, can rejuvenate vaginal tissue by increasing the thickness of the vaginal walls, which can improve sexual function and dryness. You can use non-crosslinked hyaluronic acid in the vagina for menopausal atrophy.’ Labial Puff ‘Dermal filler is pumped into the labia to plump it up and give a more youthful appearance,’ says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. ‘The effect of the filler is to voluminise the labia majora. It can have a significant impact on the patient’s day-to-day life, such as making it easier to exercise and wear tight trousers and reduce symptoms of ‘exposure’ to the intimate area by reducing irritation and infection. ‘The labial puff can help women who suffer from a loss of volume in the labia majora without undergoing surgery,” says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. ‘It only takes 15 minutes but can last up to 12 months. ‘Labial laxity may sound like a cosmetic issue as the tissue becomes loose and sagging but it can result in physical problems too such as vaginal dryness, loss of libido and feeling uncomfortable in swimwear and tight exercise clothes. ‘Age and childbirth can cause your labia to change shape or tone. The labial puff involves an anaesthetic injection to numb the area and then filler is injected. The treatment can result in improved confidence as well as reducing pain during intercourse as loose labia can chafe. The G-shot ‘The G Shot is purely focused on giving you the most sensation possible during sex,” says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. “In this treatment, hyaluronic acid, which is the same solution used in fillers, is injected into your most erogenous area. It uses cross-linked hyaluronic acid. ‘The G Shot works by enhancing the G-spot and the filler gently increases the size and sensitivity, making it much more receptive to sensation. ‘I do not do the G-shot because of the risk of injecting filler into a highly vascular area in the vagina. You do not want cross-linked filler inside the vagina. It is similar to where the o-shot is injected but it does not include the clitoris. ‘ PRP ‘PRP is a procedure which takes concentrated plasma from the blood of the patient and it is then injected to help stimulate cell regrowth and regeneration,’ says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. ‘The PRP injections are injected into labia majora and vulva to help boost the growth and health of the vulva and vagina. It can be an alternative to HRT for those suffering from vaginal atrophy and related symptoms such as pain, dryness and recurrent bladder infections. “When you take the blood and use the concentrated plasma, which has a higher concentration of platelets, you can use it to rejuvenate different parts of the body. ‘PRP can help with female sexual dysfunction, arousal disorder, pain during sex and trouble climaxing. It can also help with stress incontinence, vaginal dryness and Lichen Sclerosus.” The O-shot ‘The O-shot is a specific technique of using PRP for female sexual health. It’s a non-surgical procedure that can resolve many intimate issues,’ says intimate health specialist Dr Shirin Lakhani. ‘It can enhance sexual experience, as women who have the treatment say their orgasms become stronger, longer-lasting and more frequent. ‘The injection is administered into the clitoris and into the vaginal wall to regenerate the whole area. An anaesthetic to numb the area is given beforehand. We inject PRP - the platelet-rich plasma. The PRP will stimulate the production of collagen and elastin and increase sensitivity in the area.” Are these treatments painful? “Some of these treatments may sound painful in a particularly sensitive area but you will be given either a topical anaesthetic to numb the area or injected with anaesthetic so you will not feel it. “Some find the intimate nature of the procedure a little daunting. If you have any questions or concerns, I encourage you to discuss them with your practitioner. There’s no need for embarrassment or feelings of anxiety.” This article is a promotional advertorial by Dr Shirin Lakhani, Intimate health expert, Elite Aesthetics Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.

And no, it's not what you think. While we know it’ll be no picnic, nothing prepares you for losing your spouse or partner. Despite having lost my father and both maternal grandparents at 20 and too many close friends in the last few decades, this grief is on another dimension. I’d had a brief reminder a few months before my husband’s diagnosis when our dog died two years ago. Yes, it was “just a dog”, but there was definitely grief and the accompanying pain. I remember thinking, “Ah yes, it’s been a while”, and acknowledging the process, knowing I’d feel better the following week. (I still miss her, though.) When you lose a spouse, you lose “your person” - the one you chose, the one who chose you, the one who has your back, the one you text about your latest gaffe (in my case), and the one (again, in my case) you ask to reach for things off the top shelf. To indirectly quote The Widow’s Handbook, you lose your past, present, and future, if only temporarily. The real blindsider for me wasn’t even all of the above because I suspected it would be as bad as it is. The surprise was that despite my husband’s meticulous planning, I was still besieged by administrative SNAFUs that made me dread getting up in the morning almost as much as his absence did. Opening up my laptop made my stomach churn. Most of the problems were beyond my control and hard to anticipate, so I want to share them because even with terminal illnesses, you never quite know when you’ll join The Club No One Wants To Be In. BEFORE DEATH Assume the worst — Call me Debbie Downer, but this is a must. Since my husband’s death, many friends have realised their wishes aren’t recorded, or their situations have changed. You may not have ‘all the time in the world’ to make changes, so do it now. Have a will — even if you don’t think you have much. You might have a pension that passes on, and if you own property, something has to happen to it. Also, check your will regularly to ensure it’s still what you want. For example, has your child been married since your last will? Should the unthinkable happen to them, do you want the inheritance to go to the spouse? Have you left someone in charge who might not be the best person now? If you have a substantial amount, it’s worth coughing up for a lawyer as they ask all the right questions. Know where things are — When someone dies, there are many things you have to do pretty quickly and mislaid information adds to the stress. If you have a will, the paperwork is with a lawyer or in the house. Do you know who the lawyer is and how to contact them? Are they even still in business? Can you lay hands on the documents? (An LPA or power of attorney ceases at death, but you might need it before that time, so again, make sure you can locate it.) Ditto for insurance certificates, ownership proof (house and cars), and mortgage paperwork, all of which might be requested if you need to list any separate assets. Is there a funeral plan? It’s not the end of the world if you can’t find it, as obviously, your loved one won’t be around to see that you didn’t follow their wishes to the T. However, the funeral plan might include receipts for prepaid services and other items, such as flowers and printing costs. Share your PINS and passwords— My husband and I laughed at having the same PIN for our phones. We’d used them without collaboration, clearly being too unimaginative to think beyond ‘numbers that aren’t obvious’. Thank feck! You see, no matter how many joint accounts you have, they often require one phone number for two-step verification. (If they allow you to input an alternate number, DO IT.) Accessing these accounts when you have no PIN is doable but much more time-consuming and stressful. Even though everything was in joint names, M created the bulk of online accounts, meaning that if I had a query, the companies required a death certificate to transfer the account to my name before even answering me. (And don’t assume the death certificate always comes through quickly.) If your spouse keeps domestic information on a work computer, it might have additional security steps to allow access. Again, know how to get into it or share any house/family documents with another device. If, as mentioned above, your partner set up the account, communication will go to their e-mail address, so make sure you can get in. (Despite four pages of URLs and passwords — bless him — I still had to become an expert hacker!) Be financially savvy — By this, I don’t mean handling the finances but knowing what you have and who it’s with. My husband was an accountant, so it would have been silly of me to wrestle control of everything, but I knew what was what. Make sure your address on every account is current. If you moved not long before an illness or death, it’s easy for this to slip through the cracks. Although you can forward mail through the Post Office, most people do that for a year at most. It’s amazing how many companies don’t update their systems despite your instructions, and most new tenants and owners start throwing mail out after a year or so. If you have a mortgage, know who it’s with, how long it is for, whether it is interest-only, how much it costs you, and whose name it’s in. Importantly, what happens to it when one of you dies? Sometimes, the lender might require proof that you can still afford the payments even on a joint mortgage, so don’t be surprised at their questions. Did your spouse have a pension? Where is it, and what happens to it now? (Bear in mind that there may be more than one pension fund.) Similarly, with insurance. Is there a life insurance policy, and what happens now? Look at your payments — If you’re not the bill payer, peruse your bank statements occasionally. In the days and weeks after a bereavement, the last thing you want is to be panicking over what’s being paid automatically and what isn’t. AFTER DEATH First things first — don’t panic. Many things feel urgent, but most can actually wait. In the UK, the government website tells you what to do when someone dies, (“Tell Us Once”), and if they were in a hospital, there are staff there to direct you, too. In the US, my experience was that the funeral home did much of the “letting people know” admin. In most countries, you can Google “What to do when someone dies” for up-to-date information. Many companies and financial institutions have a Bereavement office with a dedicated e-mail and the same person at the other end. I found them compassionate and helpful but, more importantly, able to get things done far more quickly than the regular customer service staff could. Speaking of kindness, don’t be afraid to sound vulnerable; it works wonders and brings out the best in people! If you’re strapped for cash - removing your partner from phone plans or car insurance might help, although it’ll probably take ‘thirty business days’. Do check that they’ve done that. I was advised to close our phone plan and open another one in my name only. Naively assuming that that was done correctly, it took me three months to realize they’d transferred his phone to the new account and were still charging me the same amount. (This one got sent straight off to the Bereavement department!) Bank accounts - can be tricky since payments can be made to your spouse/partner or their ‘estate’. I was advised to have M taken off as an active account holder but not to remove his name entirely since a few checks were due. I received one check written out to his estate and had a slight battle to bank it since, technically, there was no account in that name. Check with your bank. Keep up to date with your taxes - In many US states, if you become delinquent on your property taxes, this is listed publicly and can quickly become more than just a late payment. The local government can issue a ‘lien’ on the property, which unrelated people can then buy. If you’re lucky, you’ll be able to pay this lien plus interest, but in worst-case scenarios, this can result in foreclosure. (This is not legal advice, but a quick search on the subject clarifies the danger.) Money going in and out — If your bills aren’t paid automatically, setting that up until the dust settles might be helpful. In most cases, it’s pretty simple to reverse. Pay attention to what’s coming in in case payments (like US Social Security, if relevant) are still being made. You will eventually have to pay it back, so best not to spend it in the first place. There might also be subscriptions to cancel; if they are on auto-renew, make a note on your calendar to cancel a few days before. Start filing — There’s a lot of death admin in the months after bereavement, so organization is a must if you want to keep your head from exploding. File e-mails immediately, and don’t just use your partner’s name. Divide it into ‘banking’, ‘taxes’, ‘car’, ‘house’, and so on, so you’re not wading through everything you’ve ever received. Ditto paperwork. That pile on the kitchen counter quickly becomes unmanageable, and you run the risk of things being thrown out with the pizza boxes. It only takes a couple of paper folders to keep you straight. Notebooks are your friend — Even if you do everything on your phone, sometimes you need to write something down while talking to someone. I found my “Death Notebook” a godsend as it was much harder to misplace than single sheets of paper and used envelopes. Don’t commit anything to memory — Bereavement is a mind-numbing time, even months after the event. You will speak to many people about matters that are completely new to you. What seems crystal clear one day is a blurred memory a day later. If your world is anything like mine, you’ll also have to deal with three Debbies, two Johns, and several Mikes. Write everything down. Treat it like a job - My late husband was a dual citizen (as am I), therefore, the admin was/is onerous. However, people with more straightforward situations also find the death admin overwhelming. You can’t do it on the fly, and I recommend sitting down in a quiet, organized spot and dedicating chunks of time to it. It’s normal to procrastinate, but there’s a sense of control and achievement when you get things done. Valuable hint — (I stole this from a friend). Instead of having a To-Do list, which often has uncompleted items at the end of the day, keep a list of all the things you do and call it your Ta-Da list. It’s amazing how much better you’ll feel. You got this! Toni Hargis is an author who lives in Surrey. 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It’s the most wonderful time of the year. The family are returning to the nest. Christmas lights are twinkling. The scents, sounds, and tastes of our childhood fill our homes once again as we prepare for the merriment and celebrations ahead. But there’s no denying that December can feel rather a hectic and overwhelming month too. And it’s easy to forget the bigger picture as we dash around madly trying to ensure everything is perfect it’s easy to forget the bigger picture as we dash around madly trying to ensure everything is perfect for the people we love. Keeping Christmas Manageable A few things to keep in mind as we dive headfirst into the festive season: Stop, think, and prioritise A few minutes spent updating the diary and highlighting key to-dos for each event can help keep anxiety at bay. Look for pinch points so you can resolve clashes and bottlenecks early. Mark things like last posting dates and food order deadlines on the calendar too so you can stop worrying about missing them. And be realistic when deciding how much to take on. Don’t Be Afraid To Say No Is it a British thing, or just general human nature that makes us feel compelled to accept every invite, request and favour sent in our direction? Pick and choose the activities most important to you and yours. Remember: it is still possible to socialise in January (why does it feel like we so often forget that?!) and that old cliché of ‘There’s always next Christmas’ is true too. Celebrate a Perfectly IMPERFECT Christmas We passionately believe in about celebrating imperfect Christmases. None of us needs the stress of striving for perfection; it often gets in the way of the very thing we’re trying to achieve – special moments with our loved ones. Anyway, the things that don’t go to plan become the stories of Christmas past which we regale each Christmas future. Perhaps, in fact, an imperfect Christmas is a perfect Christmas, after all! Take Time For You It’s so easy to forget ourselves in the hustle and bustle of it all, particularly as the glue holding everything together. Carve out a few minutes a day to keep your own routines going, be it exercise, healthy eating, mindfulness exercises, or simply getting some fresh air. On average, advent candles burn for about 20 minute a day —a perfect and calming timer, allowing just the right amount of time for a peaceful (and manageable) moment dedicated to you. Head to jollyfestive.com for a free printable self-care advent calendar if you’d like guided inspiration on how to use that time. Keeping Christmas Organised Ever wonder how you’re going to get the Christmas décor back in the box, cupboard or loft come January? Here’s a few tips and tricks for how to keep the decorations in order, and make it easier for yourself next year too. Pack decorations away by room. That way you can decorate in stages rather than needing to bring everything out together and making the exercise feel overwhelming. Separate the tree decorations from the rest of the Christmas décor so it can be its own individual activity. Store decorations in clear boxes if possible so you can easily see what’s inside rather than having to rummage. Take photos of your room when fully decorated, print them out, and stick them to the front of the box containing those decs. That way you’ll have a quick inventory of what’s inside plus a visual guide to help make decorating quicker next year. When it comes to the lights, wrap them around a piece of cardboard to stop them from getting in a tangle. We prefer starting our lights from the non-plug end, so we wrap them with the plug first (but reverse if you’re the other way around). Add a small piece of brightly coloured tape to the end so it’s easy to find. Clear collapsible ornament boxes can be useful for safely storing your precious tree decorations, especially if you have lots of uniform standard-size baubles. Otherwise, try wrapping them in tissue paper and storing them in labelled boxes by location used and colour or theme. Keeping Christmas For The Next Generation If you’re thinking of downsizing your Christmas décor collection, here’s a few tips and ideas for how: Keep a Christmas Capsule Box Think about what you’re likely to put up in the future and just keep these items – one set of lights, one set of baubles that work together and a few special pieces of co-ordinated other décor. And, of course, be sure to keep those precious, sentimental ornaments too. Even if you’re not planning on decorating a tree each year, there are lots of other ways to show off a handful of special ornaments. Try and choose décor that can be multi-functional and repurposed for other seasons of the year too, such as fairy lights, paper fans, candlesticks, and wreaths that can be tweaked for each celebration. Don’t worry if you get it wrong; you can easily supplement in the future or simply repurpose some of your everyday home décor for Christmas. We’ve got lots of simple ideas for how on the website. Passing Ornaments Along For those ornaments that are surplus to requirement, there’s lots of ways to give them a second lease of life, such as: Share Them With Your Children. Encourage them to pick out the decorations they hold dearest for their own trees. Add to Tags On Gifts. A great embellishment to your gifts this year. You could even add an extra tag explaining what you’re doing and why you felt they may like that ornament. Host A Pot Luck Ornament Party. Ask each guest to bring a dish for the party table and then have them choose a decoration from your tree to take home and add to theirs. Donate. Schools, community centres and local shelters will often be grateful for Christmas decoration donations to spread Christmas cheer within their community. Get Crafty. Upcycle your old decorations as gifts for Christmas or even to sell at local craft fairs. There’s so much fabulous inspiration online to get you started. Keep The Memories Alive If you’re finding it hard to part with your decorations, don’t! There’s no right and wrong here, just pass them along when feels right to you. You could do it in stages, a few a year for example. Or if practicalities mean you must, consider photographing the decorations before you part with them. You could either make an annotated photo album, or use the photos to create a collage for the wall (or even to decoupage a vase). The possibilities are endless! However you decide to decorate, store, share, and celebrate your Christmas this year, we hope it’s a happy one filled with the people you love and a touch of festive magic in the air. Best wishes, Hannah & Jo, Co- founders of the website Jolly Festive. Two sisters 10 years apart in age and living on either side of the Atlantic, both completely and utterly Christmas-obsessed! Listen to us chatting with Hannah about how to keep calm and organised over the Christmas period. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Jane Michell founder of Jane Plan the UK's leading weight management system gives us some great advice on how to enjoy a happy, healthy and fun festive season! The party season seems to start earlier and earlier every year, so it’s no wonder many of us step on the scales in early January and see that we’ve ‘mysteriously’ gained a few lbs, and sometimes much more. The mince pies, chocolates, party buffets and panettone start to build up well before the main event, Christmas Day, and they linger for at least a week after. In fact, evidence suggests that on Christmas Day itself, on average we eat 3500-4000 calories more than we need, which is more than enough to add a pound of fat. And that’s just one day! It’s therefore not a surprise that the average person in the UK gains around 6lbs during the festive season. I’m not advocating that we should be forbidding any festive foods, but a bit of smart damage limitation, that won’t spoil the festive feeling or fun, may make your self-talk a bit sweeter when you first step on the scales in January. Don’t stock up too early for Christmas Don’t be tempted to stock up on the festive foods in late November or early December – instead hold off. Why? Because the potential of eating them before Christmas is huge. And then you’ll have to go back out to the shops, spend more time and more money – and the chances are you’ll eat them all again – doubling up your calories! Be a savvy shopper We all know what happens to Christmas leftovers – we eat them! So, make a list before you shop and only put on it what you actually need. You’ll mitigate the risk of having a house full of food – that you are almost certainly going to eat! Don’t overeat out of politeness We all know the feeling, but the feeders among our friends and family are determined to make sure we eat even more, it is Christmas after all. Make sure you have a strategy in place before you go to an event of how to say ‘no more thank you’. Make your own…… Dips are a key part of any festive fun. By making your own using low fat yoghurt or crème fraiche you’ll eat less calories and reduce your saturated fat intake too. Even better go for tomato salsas! Rather than serving crisps and nachos, make crudites like cucumber, celery, sweet peppers and carrots – they’ll look gorgeous and will provide a wide range of nutrients and fibre! Have a go at making your own mince pies using filo pastry instead of shortcrust, puff or flaky. It’s lower in calories and fat. Or leave the pastry lid off completely and save 40 calories per pie. The Jane Plan hub is packed full of healthy Christmas recipes – check them out here. Go mini! If you don’t have the time, or the energy, to cook, look out for mini versions of your favourite foods such as Christmas puddings and mince pies. An average supermarket mini mince pie is c 100-150 calories, the usual size is almost double. Step away from the sweets And maybe the nuts too! Not sitting right next to a bowl of nibbles may seem obvious, but it’s all too easy to pick away and not notice how many you’ve eaten until you see the wrappers piling up next to you, or the empty bowl by your side. Think one small sweet won’t count? Think again, there are c 10,000 calories in a 2kg tin of Roses. But nuts are good – right? Yes, they are, but they are also high in calories. Buy nuts in their shells, like walnuts, Brazil nuts and hazelnuts and use a nut cracker – you’ll be so busy cracking the nuts you’ll actually eat less of them. Pile up the tangerines Not only do they look gorgeous they are also packed with vitamin C and virtually fat free. They’re a great decoy to the other less healthy treats lying around the house. Choose a tangerine over a mince pie, slice of yule log or Christmas cake and save at least 200 calories. Buffets are sooooo tempting Don't hover, stand or constantly drift towards the buffet table - you'll end up nibbling or munching on tasty morsels and quickly forget just how much you've eaten. The easiest way to control the amount you eat is to fill your plate just once and then move away from the food. Choose carefully! Avoid pastry items such as sausage rolls, quiche, vol-au-vents and spring rolls. And steer clear of anything that's been deep-fried, such as crispy wontons or battered prawns. Skipping the garlic bread, crisps and peanuts will save loads of calories - as will avoiding anything that comes with mayo or soured cream such as coleslaw, potato salad and creamy dips. Instead, opt for lean protein like smoked salmon, fresh prawns, salads without mayo, crudités, breadsticks, salsa and tzatziki. Strategies for canapes at Christmas If canapés or nibbles are constantly being offered to you while you're chatting, avoid the temptation by keeping your hands full. A napkin in one hand and a glass in the other should do the trick. Alternatively, keep your hands busy by taking plates of canapés or snacks around for other guests. The cheese board (and calories) Whilst totally delicious and moreish, cheese tends to be high in saturated fat as well as calories – to give you an idea a Christmas classic like Stilton has around 123 calories for just 25g. So, if you are going to tuck into the cheese board be mindful of the calories and accompany your cheese choices with celery, figs or grapes – as opposed to bread or crackers, and this will help reduce the overall calorie intake. And when the big day finally arrives you can still enjoy it without breaking the calorie bank! My 12 top tips for Christmas Day without calories 1.Don’t smother the turkey with oil, butter, or goose fat. Use a pastry brush to add a light covering of oil rather than pouring or spooning it over. Remember, just 1tbsp oil contains 100 calories and 11g fat! 2. Before tucking into your meal, remove the skin from the turkey. Just 15g contains a massive 70 calories and 6g fat. 3. Pile your plate high with traditional seasonal veggies like red cabbage, carrots and Brussels sprouts. The more colours you have on your plate, the greater the variety of nutrients. Finally, don’t serve veg smothered in butter. Just 1tsp will add 35 calories and 4.1g fat to your meal. 4. Use less fat to roast potatoes and parsnips. Parboil them first, then brush lightly with oil rather than pouring straight from the bottle. Pop them into the oven and you should have delicious, crispy roasties that aren’t loaded with oil. Keep them in large pieces, too, as this reduces the amount of fat they absorb. 5. If you’re going to use the meat juices to make the gravy, drain off any fat first. 6. Make your own stuffing with chopped chestnuts as they contain just 2.7g fat per 100g. It’s a better option than sausage meat, which provides around 32g fat per 100g! 7. Beware of all the extras such as cranberry sauce and bread sauce. Allow 25 calories for 1tsp cranberry sauce, 40 calories for an average serving of bread sauce made with semi-skimmed milk and 20 calories for 1tbsp white sauce made with semi-skimmed milk. 8. If you have room for Christmas pudding have just a small serving. An average 100g portion contains a massive 330 calories and 11.8g fat. 9. Surprisingly you might be better off opting for a dollop of cream on your Christmas pudding as opposed to brandy butter or custard but limit yourself to just one tablespoon. Even better use a low-fat crème fraiche. 10. Watch what you drink! Check out the Jane Plan guide to alcohol to help you make informed choices and remember -will power is soluble in alcohol. 11. And when it comes to the left overs……..instead of fatty, high calorie meals like Bubble n squeak or coronation turkey, make a delicious meal like turkey soup and a simple turkey salad. The most important tip festive season however is to relax, enjoy, have fun and spend these precious moments with your loved ones. Happy Christmas and lots of love to you all Jane xxxx Jane Michell is Founder of Jane Plan the UK's leading weight management system. Save £50 using code TWC50 when you sign up for Jane Plan. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. Please visit our Midlife Library of Resources which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. 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Many people think of testosterone as a male sex hormone, but women produce it too. In fact, women produce 3 times more testosterone than the female sex hormone oestrogen before menopause. Female testosterone levels gradually decline as we get older and it's not fully known if this is just due to age or if due to menopause. Surgical removal of ovaries (oophorectomy), causes testosterone levels to become lower quickly as our ovaries produce most of the testosterone in our bodies. Testosterone is a biologically active hormone, and we have receptors for testosterone all over our bodies. Testosterone has a critical role in the brain as well as other organs of the body. Symptoms of low levels of testosterone in women can include: - Low sex drive (libido) - Less pleasurable sex (the ability to get aroused and have an orgasm) - Lack of energy - Tiredness - Finding it hard to concentrate Women with low levels of testosterone often describe a ‘lack of joy’ or feeling like they have cotton wool in their brain, or a lead weight attached to their bodies. Sadly, women are conditioned to normalise these feeling as they often come around the same time as other stresses such as looking after elderly parents, emptying nesting and work or financial stresses. Currently testosterone treatment for women is not licensed in the UK. This means there is not a licence for its use but does NOT mean it is unsafe. It can, however, be prescribed ‘off-licence’. Testosterone replacement for men is licensed and I think it is quite scandalous that men are allowed to have their hormones back, but women are not. Hopefully, this will change in the near future. Women who are lucky enough to be prescribed testosterone on the NHS will be offered a product designed for men ie packaged at a dose suitable for men which is 10 x higher than women need. Privately women may be offered Androfeme1 which is licensed for and designed for women. It comes with a syringe for measuring the correct dose and is applied to the skin daily. NICE ( National Institute for Clinical Excellence) guidelines state that testosterone replacement can be considered for perimenopausal and menopausal women who have reduced sexual desire or low libido but anecdotally, many women who take testosterone in addition to their HRT notice that other symptoms including mood, energy and concentration also improve. Recently researchers at Newson Health studied data from 905 women aged 45 and over taking testosterone . Results showed that this treatment was associated with an overall 37% improvement in sexual function scores, 47% improvement in mood related symptoms, 45% improvement in symptoms associated with anxiety , 35% improved sleep, 34% improved concentration, 32% improved energy and 24% improved memory. These scores cannot be ignored! We definitely need more studies on the use of testosterone in women but in the meantime women who continue to have symptoms despite being on standard HRT should be able to access an informed discussion with her prescriber to see if testosterone may be beneficial for her. Judith Spruzs is the founder of Menopause Health person-centred, holistic care for perimenopausal and menopausal women. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content.

As a parent, you may be dreading your teen leaving home for university but in the back of your mind there is that niggling worry – what if they don’t make the grades? Don’t add to their stress- be calm and prepared behind the scenes. Here are some top tips for A Level Results Day. Pre- results day Try not to have a holiday booked on results day If possible it would be helpful if you could take the day off work - if they get their grades it’s unlikely you will see them as they will be out celebrating with friends but if things haven’t gone quite to plan you will be there to support them Research and collate a list of alternative universities that offer similar courses with the grades they require Help gather the information they’ll need for the call including their Clearing number, UCAS Personal ID, details of their qualifications (including A-level, AS-level, GCSE and equivalent results), login details for the UCAS Hub, a copy of their personal statement and their notes on the course and university – clearing moves very fast with students calling early on results day so it really is worth taking the time to research options beforehand You can’t make the call for them, but you can them get ready by running through their answers to possible questions, discussing questions they could ask, reading their Personal Statement with them, and keeping them calm. They should treat it like a job interview and prepare themselves thoroughly. Results day Make sure mobile phones are fully charged and have a notepad and pen to hand Results are emailed or available online from 8.00am from schools or colleges The UCAS Hub opens at approximately 8.15 am and is where students are kept up to date with their application's progress (it does not show A’Level grades). The UCAS Hub will show if decisions have been made by the university choice. If UCAS has been notified, you can expect to see the following changes to offers on the UCAS Hub: Unconditional - the place on the course has been confirmed. It could be their firm or insurance offer, or both. If they are holding at least one conditional place and the requirements have been met the offer will change to 'unconditional'. Details on what to do next will be sent either from UCAS, or directly from the university. For example, some institutions will ask you to provide evidence of your qualifications. Unconditional Changed Course (UCC) - the necessary grades have not been achieved but the university has proposed a similar course requiring lower grades. They may also offer an alternative start date, such as deferred entry. A decision has to be made within five days to decide so discuss the opportunity with the university in question. Unsuccessful - not been accepted. If the grades needed for both their firm and insurance offers have not been achieved they can find out if they're eligible for Clearing by logging into their UCAS Hub record. Their clearing number will appear in Hub automatically. This is the code they use to secure any future course offer they want to accept. As soon as they have their clearing number and their list of university and course choices, they can start calling university Clearing hotlines. If they're asked to apply to a course and want to take up the place, they need to add the course as their Clearing choice in Track. They can only enter one. Not all universities and not all courses are available in Clearing, so it's worth checking before your child calls their chosen university. What if they haven’t made the grades? Most importantly make sure your teen realises they are not alone and you do not show your disappointment. Be positive, every year thousands of students in the UK find a university place through clearing . They can appeal against the results but remember results can go down as well as up. If they opt to appeal then they must contact their school who will log it with the exam board but must contact their university immediately who will hold the place. Ask your teen how you can best support them. Whether it’s cooking them their favourite meal, allowing them to shout and scream at you, letting them lock themselves away for a few hours, a hug- just be there so when they are ready to focus and decide their next steps Alternatives to university Unfortunately, some students may receive significantly lower grades than expected, and perhaps they need to think why? Be realistic, did they work hard enough, or were the subjects they studied just not right? Are they really cut out for university or college? There are so many alternatives, including: CareerAddict GlobalCitizenYear Apprenticeships Additional reading : Kids left home? Embrace the empty nest! Listen to our podcast episodes on Empty Nest: Before they go' and 'When they've gone' Visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more tips for empty nesters. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

We spoke to Andrea McLean, ex-Loose Women anchor now turned life coach, about loneliness for our podcast. Loneliness can be devastating, regardless of age or gender. However, midlife can be a particularly vulnerable period when it comes to experiencing feelings of isolation, especially for women as we go through hormonal change and our kids leaving home. There can be loneliness in the marital bed, perhaps you’ve grown apart and lost that connection. Empty nest syndrome is a real thing and can leave parents with a sense of grief as we become accustomed to a new chapter of our lives. It’s almost certain that, by the time we have reached midlife, we will have experienced bereavement. Sadly it’s likely that we will know friends or family who pass away. Our parents are now elderly and increasingly likely to succumb to illness and death. Andrea reflected that many women wonder “Am I relevant anymore? A lot of the words that we use and the tone that we use with ourselves makes us feel very small. And what that does is it makes the problem seem so big. And this can happen to us at any moment in life. But I think that there is a particular insidious loneliness that creeps in at middle age.” If you are experiencing loneliness, consider some of the following suggestions: Self-Reflection and Self-Care: Assess your needs, aspirations, and emotional well-being. Engaging in self-care activities such as meditation, exercise, or pursuing hobbies can enhance self-esteem and provide a sense of fulfillment, reducing feelings of loneliness. Embracing New Opportunities: This is a time for exploration and personal growth. This can involve pursuing further education, taking up new hobbies, planning travel adventures or even embarking on a career change. By stepping out of your comfort zones, you can open doors to new connections and experiences that can alleviate loneliness. Building social connections and seek support networks: Proactively building new social connections by joining community groups, attending classes or workshops, participating in volunteer work, or even exploring online communities. Establishing a strong support network is crucial. This can include friends, family, or even professional support groups. Connecting with others who are experiencing similar challenges can create a sense of belonging and reduce the isolation often felt during this phase of life. Seeking therapy or counselling can also provide a safe space for midlife women to explore their emotions and develop coping strategies. Cultivating quality relationships Quality over quantity is key when it comes to relationships. Focus on cultivating deeper and more meaningful connections with the people in your lives. This can involve nurturing existing friendships (message that old friend!), investing in romantic relationships, or even fostering relationships with adult children or extended family members. Use that laptop! Technology can be a powerful tool for combating loneliness. Leverage social media platforms, online forums and video chat applications to connect with friends, family, and like-minded individuals. Remember, you are not alone (even if it feels like it), and there are resources and strategies available to help navigate this phase of life. We hope we can provide a friendly chat in your earbuds and encourage you to make the most of this chapter of your life. Take that first step. Take a listen to our chat with Andrea McLean about Loneliness in Midlife Visit our Midlife Library Resources which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more tips for empty nesters. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. You can listen to Two Women Chatting podcasts on any platform or just by ‘asking Alexa’.

In today's digital age, online dating has become increasingly popular. With the swipe of a finger or the click of a button, we can now connect with potential partners from all corners of the world. While online dating offers convenience and a wide range of options, it's important to be aware of red flags that may indicate potential dangers. Understanding these warning signs can help you navigate the online dating landscape while prioritizing your safety and well-being. Red flags to look out for when navigating online dating sites One of the most significant red flags to watch out for is inconsistent or evasive behavior. If someone you're talking to online seems to be inconsistent with their responses or avoids answering direct questions, this may be a sign of deceit. Pay attention to any discrepancies in their stories, as this could indicate that they're not being truthful about their identity or intentions. Another red flag to be aware of is an overly aggressive or demanding attitude. If someone you've just met through an online dating site starts pressuring you for personal information, intimate photos, or financial assistance, it's crucial to take a step back. Respectful individuals understand the importance of boundaries and will not rush or manipulate you into sharing personal details before you're ready. Additionally, be cautious of individuals who avoid meeting face-to-face after an extended period of communication. While it's understandable that some people may prefer to take things slowly, an excessive delay in meeting in person could indicate that the person is not genuine or might be hiding something. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety when deciding to meet someone offline. A lack of transparency is another red flag to watch out for. If someone you're communicating with online refuses to provide clear and recent photos or avoids video calls, it's essential to question their authenticity. Catfishing, where someone pretends to be someone they're not, is unfortunately prevalent in the online dating world. Always request recent photos and, if possible, engage in video calls to ensure you're interacting with a real person. Pay attention to language patterns and grammar as well. While it's not fair to judge someone solely based on their writing skills, irregular grammar, excessive spelling mistakes, or an unusual style of communication may be red flags. This could be an indicator that the person is not who they claim to be or that they're using a fake profile. Lastly, be cautious of anyone who tries to rush into a relationship or shows signs of emotionally manipulative behaviour. Healthy relationships take time to develop and should be built on mutual trust and respect. If someone is pushing for an exclusive commitment early on or displaying controlling behaviour, it's crucial to reassess the situation and protect your emotional well-being. Online dating sites provide a vast pool of potential partners, but it's essential to approach them with caution and be aware of red flags that may indicate potential dangers. By paying attention to inconsistent behaviour, aggressive attitudes, reluctance to meet in person, lack of transparency, irregular language patterns, and rushing into a relationship, you can navigate the online dating world safely. Trust your instincts, set boundaries, and prioritise your safety as you embark on your digital dating journey. There are several popular online dating websites in the UK. Here’s a few to you started: • Match: One of the most well-known dating platforms, Match has a large user base and offers various features to help you connect with potential matches. • eHarmony: Known for its compatibility matching system, eHarmony focuses on finding long-term relationships. They use a detailed questionnaire to match you with compatible individuals. • Tinder: A popular app-based dating platform, Tinder allows you to swipe right or left to indicate your interest in someone. It's known for its casual and fun approach to dating. • Bumble: Similar to Tinder, Bumble also uses a swiping system, but with a twist. Women make the first move on Bumble, giving them more control over the conversations. • EliteSingles: If you're looking for educated and professional singles, EliteSingles might be a good choice. It aims to connect individuals with similar ambitions and lifestyles. Remember, it's important to research and choose the platform that aligns with your dating preferences and goals. Happy dating and stay safe! Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Please visit our Midlife Library resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. Listen to the Two Women Chatting podcast with Sami Wunder who gives some sound advice on dating in midlife

By the time you get to your midlife, you are entering some of the most fabulous decades of your life! At this stage, you have a high level of intuition cultivated through life experience. If you find yourself single at this time of your life, you should not be willing to settle for anything less than the love and respect you deserve in your relationships. With your heightened intuition and confidence, it's time to delve into the world of midlife dating with leading international dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, who has helped thousands of women to attract healthy partnerships. In this blog Sami sprinkles some top-notch dating tips for women in their midlife. Sami’s best dating tips for women in their midlife, compiled after coaching thousands of women across 90 countries of the globe, on how you can attract a healthy, loving relationship. Midlife Dating Tip #1: The Art of Discernment In the dating realm, discernment is your secret weapon. It's about realizing that perfection doesn't exist, but red flags certainly do. Sami wants you to keep an eagle eye out for potential deal breakers, such as: Temper Troubles: If he's got a fuse shorter than a sparkler, it might be time to reconsider. Workaholic Alert: A man consumed by work may not have room for a relationship, and you deserve someone who prioritizes you. Priority Puzzles: If he can't make space for you in his schedule, it's time to wave that red flag high. In midlife, your standards evolve. It's not just about avoiding blatantly disrespectful or abusive men; it's also about seeking someone who genuinely has the capacity to be there for you. Remember, emotional unavailability is a massive red flag. Being attractive and intelligent is just the tip of the iceberg; you need someone who's willing to make you a priority. Discernment empowers you to make wise choices and not rush into a relationship without due consideration. Midlife Dating Tip #2: Slow and Steady Wins the Race Picture this: you're basking in the glow of an exciting connection, and the temptation to leap into exclusivity is strong. But hold on! Sami's advice for midlife dating is to take your time. Rushing into exclusivity might lead to surprises down the road as hidden facets of your partner's personality emerge. It's crucial to go slow and ensure that your values align, that you're on the same page regarding your goals, and that you share a fundamental compatibility. Emotional availability and effort count for a lot. Don't let physical attraction be the sole driver of exclusivity; give the relationship time to unfold organically. Midlife Dating Tip #3: Boundaries - Your Secret Superpower Wave “good-bye” to the days of being the "good girl" who stifles her needs and feelings to gain approval from men. Your 30s, 40s and 50s are all about standing tall and proud, embracing your needs, and expressing your desires. Draw boundaries like a diva, and don’t hesitate to ask for what you want and firmly say "no" to what you don't. You can communicate your boundaries with love and respect and still refuse to compromise on what's essential to you. A man worth your time will honour and respect your boundaries, needs, and desires. Armed with discernment, a patient heart, and unwavering boundaries, you're poised to navigate the world of midlife dating with grace and confidence. Embrace your fabulous self and discover the magic of love that transcends age. The best is yet to come! Sami Wunder is a leading international dating and relationship coach who specializes in helping high-achieving women attract and keep romantic love. Her expertise has been featured in media outlets including Forbes, Glamour, TIME, Marie Claire, Business Insider, and the BBC. Ready to dive even deeper into the world of midlife dating and relationships and follow her step by step, proven process to help you attract the ONE? Sign up for a free masterclass where Sami unveils the 5 signs a man is a keeper from the very first interaction - and will ensure you never miss the relationship red flags again! Take a listen to Liz & Michelle chatting with Sami Visit our Midlife Library Resources which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more tips for empty nesters. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Breast health is not only essential for physical well-being but also has profound emotional and psychological implications for women worldwide. Dr Nyjon Eccles, one of the UK's leading Integrated Medicine Physicians, emphasizes the critical role of early detection in safeguarding breast health. As a pioneer in Medical Infrared Thermal Imaging, he champions the potential of Thermocheck® for non-invasive early breast cancer detection. Prioritizing Prevention Over Cure The age-old adage, "Prevention is better than cure," couldn't be more relevant in the context of breast health. Breast-related concerns, particularly breast cancer, have shown alarming increases in recent years. Early detection can make a substantial difference in diagnosis outcomes. Detecting potential issues at their earliest stages significantly improves the chances of successful treatment and recovery, making breast scanning a crucial component of proactive health management. The Importance and Crucial Role of Breast Scanning Breast scanning takes a proactive approach to monitor and assess breast tissue health. While mammography has been the gold standard for breast cancer, its limitations and discomfort have led experts like Dr Eccles to explore innovative alternatives. Thermocheck®: A Leap in Early Detection One such ground-breaking alternative is Thermocheck® breast thermography. Unlike mammography, Thermocheck® is non-invasive, utilizing thermal imaging to detect subtle changes in temperature and blood flow within breast tissue. These changes can indicate abnormal cell growth or developing issues within the breast. What sets Thermocheck® apart is its remarkable ability to detect these changes up to 10 years earlier than traditional mammography. In essence, Thermocheck® serves as an early warning system for breast health. It's a safe, painless procedure without the exposure to ionizing radiation, addressing a major concern associated with mammography. Detecting changes at such an early stage empowers women to take proactive measures to prevent breast cancer development or address other concerns in their early stages. Remember that the power to prevent is within your reach, and regular scanning is the key to a healthier, happier future. With experts like Dr Eccles leading the way, we can envision a future where breast health is better understood, and early intervention becomes the cornerstone of breast-related healthcare. It's not just a matter of hope; it's a matter of informed action. Your breast health is worth it. This article is a promotional advertorial by Dr Nyjon Eccles, one of the UK's leading Integrated Medicine Physicians. For more information on Dr Eccles and Thermocheck® visit The Natural Doctor website. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.